APPROPRIATE EXPECTATIONS YOU CAN HAVE FOR YOURSELF IN GRIEF
Your grief will take longer than most people think.
Your grief will take more energy than you would have ever imagined.
Your grief will involve many changes and be continually developing.
Your grief will show itself in all spheres of your life - psychological,
social and physical.
Your grief will depend upon how you perceive the loss.
You will grieve for what you have lost already and for what you have lost
for the future.
Your grief will entail mourning not only for the actual person you lost
but also for all the hopes, dreams and unfulfilled expectations you held for
and with that person, and for the needs that will go unmet because of the
Your grief will involve a wide variety of feelings and reactions, not
solely those that are generally thought of as grief, such as depression and
The loss will resurrect old issues, feelings and unresolved conflicts
from the past.
You will have some identity confusion as a result of this major loss and
the fact that you are experiencing reactions that may be quite different for
You may have a combination of anger and depression, such as irritability,
frustration, annoyance or intolerance.
You will feel some anger and guilt, or at least some manifestation of
You may have a lack of self-concern.