Grief

It is crucial that you take care of your own needs. You need strength to help your child cope with his or her loss, and your won't have this strength without a support system of your own. Children react to what they see you do. Locate a support group, a counsellor, a member of the clergy, or anyone who can be there just for you. For additional help, look for appropriate books in your library or book stores.

Keep things as routine as possible. Try not to make any more changes in your olives than absolutely necessary at this time.
Talk to your kids. Remember that their Imaginations can be worse than reality, so tell them as much as you fell they can handle, as clearly and honestly as you can. Reassure them that they did not cause the loved one's death. Have the child write down the reasons why he or she feels to blame, then counter these reasons one by one with clear logic as to why this is simply not so.
Reassure your children that you intend to take care of them until they are all grown up and can take care of themselves. Also reassure them that you are able to take good care of yourself and that you will keep yourself healthy.
Learn methods to help your children express their feelings, such as by having free and open conversations with you adn with others. Encourage them to write down their feelings or to draw them. Show them safe and non-hurtful ways to release their anger, such as punching their bed or pillows. Exercise is a wonderful outlet for everyone. Try taking wlaks together, or playing together at home or at the playground.