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The first year after the death is particularly difficult because it is full of "firsts." The first Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc. without the loved one; the first birthday that passes by, the first vacation, and so on. The second year is actually often worse than the first year because the reality has set in that he or she is really gone.

The annual anniversary of the death is a painful time

The re
cently bereaved do no have to sit out a season of joy

Ironically, the joy and excitement of the holidays magnify the sense of pain and loss for the recently bereaved yet, those who mount the death of a family member do not have to stoically endure the season. here are four gentle steps to soften the blow and ease the pain:
Plan ahead for family gatherings
some families find it comforting to stick to tradition for the holiday celebrations. for others, however, planning a holiday meal exactly the way it has been for years when a precious family member is missing just invitees a traumatic for a family conference to plan ahead for the holiday. allow family members to express how they feel. then. together decide what family traditions you want to continue. during the conference, pay special attention to the wishes of survivors who are hurting the most. their wishes should carry the most weight
Tap into your faith.
Seeking out a house of worship in which to pray, meditate and reflect can ease holiday loneliness and facilitate healing.
Don't judge your feelings
Although people usually are happy during the holiday's, you may not feel that way. if you do not feel joyful, accept those feelings. be tolerant of your moods and emotions. allow yourself to experience them. if you try to deny or block negative feelings, you simply force them deeper into your Psyche. eventually they will find other, possibly unhealthy ways of expressing themselves. if you allow yourself to feel your emotions without judging or suppressing them, they will naturally dissipate, and your stress will be reduced.
Use the name of the person who has passed
Sometimes family and friends engage in a conspiracy of silence. they believe that mentioning the name of the deceased will make the survivor sadder. break that conspiracy of silence by including your loved one